Rewiring how we perceive failure

Introduction

We often say failure is not an option, but it should be.

When our children were small and learning to walk, we never saw their falls as failure. We clapped, encouraged, and celebrated each attempt. Every stumble was part of the process. Each fall strengthened their balance, their muscles, and their courage to try again.

So why do we lose that mindset as they grow?

At some point, failure became something to fear. Not making the A team, failing a test or exam, not getting into the university stream or career path they hoped for. Suddenly, these experiences become silent topics. We don’t talk about them. We sweep them under the carpet.

But the truth is: these moments are inevitable. Everyone fails. Everyone misses a mark, a goal, a dream. What matters most is not the fall, but what we do next.

Building the Conversation

When we avoid conversations about failure, we rob children of the chance to learn how to manage disappointment, to think flexibly, to find alternative routes, and to build emotional endurance. Failure teaches self-reflection, adaptability, and problem-solving. The exact skills needed for adulthood. We need to shift how we frame it.

Failure is not the end of a path or a limitation.  It’s part of the terrain. It provides feedback, redirection, and growth. So instead of protecting our children from it, let’s guide them through it.

Conclusion

Let’s normalise conversations about setbacks; about not getting the result they wanted, about changing plans, about sitting with frustration and learning from it, because success is not defined by never falling, it’s defined by learning how to get up, again and again, with wisdom, strength, and compassion for oneself.

Let’s raise resilient and eager to learn individuals.

Visit our content page for beneficial interviews and blogs.

Visit our shop to see some of the amazing products and support services available to you for 2025!